There are quite a few people out there who claim to know what will make us happy. I am always a bit suspect of accepting general answers to mostly subjective questions. One person's happiness can be another person's obligation or chore. My contention is that most people don't spend enough time truly trying to get in touch with themselves as individuals and what honestly makes them happy. In fact, we often feel a bit sheepish or odd when we don't follow a conventional formula for happiness. There is this overriding sense that it is better to fit in than be different - which is nonsense and direct pathway to personal malaise and/or unhappiness.
As we wind down another year, I thought it would be useful to share some best practices I have observed over the years by leaders who tend to end every year on a high note:
I am regularly flabbergasted by the number of professional people I interact with who think it is okay to just miss meetings and/or deadlines as it suits them. This is especially true when it come to philanthropic or voluntary responsibilities. I do my best to give people the benefit of the doubt and understand that they can be stretched way too thin, but after awhile, why should this be anyone's problem but their own. Whatever happened to personal responsibility? We are all busy. We are all striving to find work-life balance. Life is about making choices and establishing priorities.
I've heard many leaders tell me they always wait to do something until the last minute because they perform best under this type of pressure. Sounds like a bit of rationalization to me. I know that when I procrastinate on something it's not because it is the best way to work - it is often quite the opposite. I just don't want to do whatever it is because I view it as drudgery, am unsure how to proceed or I'm not sure I'll be pleased by the outcome. I cannot imagine any scenario where purposefully putting yourself under time pressure until the last minute makes any sense.
In small business settings once you get past the obvious knowledge and competency screens, success decisions are most often a matter of personal choice.
I find that most of us tend to avoid the emotionally difficult or awkward conversation. Instead of addressing an issue head on, we "beat around the bush" or try and avoid the issue altogether. This puts the onus on the other person to become a verbal detective and/or force the issue. This isn't fair to them or us. Moreover, I find that most of these types of exchanges devolve into a passive-aggressive dynamic which is unhealthy for the relationship. You ever notice that avoidance never works - it just delays the inevitable. In matters of importance to you or someone else, when you don't say what you truly mean (or feel) this is the textbook definition of be inauthentic as fellow human being.
It seems like almost every day we read online or in print media about another famous person or business leader who commits self-sabotage. It’s almost as if they can’t help it. There is something about success which turns certain people against themselves. You would think getting to the top of the mountain in life […]
Most of us will start the New Year with a list of goals we would like to achieve over the course of the next year. Making New Years' Resolutions has become an American pastime. Unfortunately, a majority of us will end up falling far below our initial expectations. For some reason we either lose interest, become distracted by other things, or find the goals end up requiring more than we are willing to give to get there. Over the years I've observed a much smaller number of people who actually achieve what they set out to do. From this experience, I've developed the following tips to help you become one of these lucky few:
If leading organizations and people was easy, then everyone could do it. I’ve had a number of conversations lately with clients and colleagues who are complaining about how hard they have to work. More often than not, the average age of these people is under 45. I try my best to be understanding and empathetic […]