Loss and Saying Goodbye to My Pet and Friend (Thumper)
It is never easy to lose someone or a pet that you love. It’s a sad aspect of life that when we become close with another living being, that at some point, it ultimately comes to an end.
It is never easy to lose someone or a pet that you love. It’s a sad aspect of life that when we become close with another living being, that at some point, it ultimately comes to an end.
We only have one mother. Never forget that without her, we wouldn’t be here. She sacrificed and gave up many things to raise and support you. She was not perfect (no one is), but I am sure she tried her best. She brought you into this world, took care of you, and made sure you could find your way. She imparted the most significant gift of all—the ability to love and receive love.
Every year, I have fun reading holiday books, looking for excerpts from writings that reflect my feelings about the season. This is an especially poignant year for me, given my father’s recent passing. His birthday was Christmas Day, and it will be the first time we haven’t spoken on this day in my lifetime.
In my line of work, you know you have tapped into a genuine problem when you encounter disproportionate emotions. There have been many times when I have sat across from someone and watched them break down. I learned a long time ago to let the other individual have their moment and not try to downplay or negate their emotion. You do not make someone feel better by making them feel embarrassed or disappointed about their feelings.
I’ve always believed that children are a gift from God or whatever higher power you choose to believe in. They are here to teach us as much as we are here to guide them. Sometimes it’s like looking in a mirror and seeing yourself being reflected back through their actions, attitudes, etc. In other cases, you gain entry into the wondrous world of their own individuality. My hope has always been that they will take the best from their mother and me and leave our flaws behind for us to grapple with on our own.
Everyone’s life follows a similar trajectory, and it’s comforting to know that you can share these experiences (good or bad) with others who genuinely care. I encourage you to fight the narrowing of your social circle, especially when it comes to your family and close friends. It may not always be easy and will require some sacrifice on your end, but it will be worth it in the end.
I have only ever really been a “dog” person when it comes to pets. They are a unique animal that enhances our positive traits and imparts valuable life lessons. There are three things that “Buddy” and his predecessors have taught me: 1) the power of unconditional love; 2) the importance of loyalty and trust in our relationships; and 3) managing the inevitability of grief and loss in life.
I sincerely hope your homes are filled with love, friendship and joy this holiday season. And, in the midst of all the unnecessary consumerism that accompanies the holiday, I wish for you moments of clarity and peace around what’s truly important in your life. I also pray your hearts are filled with compassion and charity for those who are less fortunate.
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