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Happy Thanksgiving 2019!

I am always drawn to the romantic view of the first Thanksgiving.  Not sure this is fully accurate, but the story informs, nonetheless.

A group of people new to a foreign land begin to build a community completely out of nothing.  They didn’t arrive well-versed in how to do this, but instead figured it out as […]

Leadership Thought #348 – Do You Know What Truly Makes You Happy?

There are quite a few people out there who claim to know what will make us happy. I am always a bit suspect of accepting general answers to mostly subjective questions. One person's happiness can be another person's obligation or chore. My contention is that most people don't spend enough time truly trying to get in touch with themselves as individuals and what honestly makes them happy. In fact, we often feel a bit sheepish or odd when we don't follow a conventional formula for happiness. There is this overriding sense that it is better to fit in than be different - which is nonsense and direct pathway to personal malaise and/or unhappiness.

Leadership Thought #492 – Too Much Judgment of Others Without Facts?

It feels like we live in a world today where rushing to judgment on the behaviors and actions of others without all the facts has become the norm.  It is especially convenient when the person in question thinks or looks differently than us.  American is still a place where you’re innocent until proven guilty unless […]

Leadership Thought #491 – How To Avoid Self-Sabotage

It seems like almost every day we read online or in print media about another famous person or business leader who commits self-sabotage.  It’s almost as if they can’t help it.  There is something about success which turns certain people against themselves.   You would think getting to the top of the mountain in life […]

Leadership Thought #438 – Good People WILL Leave Your Organization

If you employ people, the reality is that employees will come and go. It is extremely rare that someone will take the entire business journey with you (or that you should want them to). A good company still experiences 10-15% turnover each year. One of my old bosses once told me that "The only certainty he had was that he was there at the beginning and would be there until he sells out or hands off the reigns to someone. More than likely, just about everyone else will come and go at some point. All you can do is strive to maximize the mutual benefit of the employer-employee relationship while they are here. You want to create an environment where good people want to stay, but accept the fact they will eventually leave, often for reasons beyond your control.” At the time I thought this was a bit cynical, but I see his wisdom more clearly many years later (Note: I left).

Leadership Thought #486 – Be Wary of Angry People

Whenever you get a disproportionate angry response from someone, there is usually something else deeper going on.  People don’t normally go from 0-60 emotionally in a very short time span unless they are already somewhat vulnerable and/or irritable to begin with.  Moreover, although you may be the target of their invective, they may be trying […]

Leadership Thought #482 – We Need Move Towards Not Away From One Another

We need move towards not away from one another.  I worry that lately we are a culture that has embraced a “divide and conquer” mindset.  Instead of “win-win” we think “win-lose.”  Instead of choosing to co-exist with people who think differently from ourselves, we further and further isolate ourselves from others who could potentially expand […]