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Designing Your Life: More Than Just Fate

February 5, 2024

In my ongoing coaching and consulting journey, I’ve encountered numerous individuals lamenting their personal or professional lives. It’s as if they believe their fate is out of their control. However, I firmly disagree with this notion. Your life, in its essence, is a canvas of your own creation. Admittedly, life is not a level playing field, and some face steeper challenges than others. Yet, I have witnessed remarkable stories of people surpassing insurmountable odds and shattering their own preconceived limits. Conversely, I’ve also seen individuals blessed with every conceivable advantage trapped in a perpetual state of discontent.

The key to creating the life you want requires certain practices and mindsets. Here’s how you can start taking more control:

  1. Value Compatibility and Friendship: In relationships, prioritize compatibility and genuine friendship with your significant other or spouse. This foundation often leads to enduring and fulfilling partnerships.
  2. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Choose to spend your social time with people who uplift you and affirm your self-worth.
  3. Associate with Grateful Professionals: Engage with those who are content and grateful with their professional careers. Their positivity can be infectious.
  4. Resist Detrimental Temptations: Avoid vices and temptations that hinder your progress. They are roadblocks on your journey to success.
  5. Nurture Body and Mind: Your physical and mental health are the bedrocks of a prosperous life. Care for them diligently.
  6. Honor Your Passions: Discover what truly ignites your spirit and ensure that you dedicate time to these passions.
  7. Make Career Choices Aligned with Your Talents: Opt for a career path that utilizes your natural skills and aligns with your interests. Prioritizing more money over everything else usually leads to job dissatisfaction.
  8. Invest in Personal Development: Personal growth is an endless journey. Embrace it and continuously strive to better yourself.
  9. Live Within Your Means and Embrace Patience: Practice financial prudence and understand the value of delayed gratification.
  10. Choose Your Environment Wisely: Pick a living and working environment that resonates with who you are and contributes to your happiness. Where you live can have a big impact on your attitude towards life.

“Many people find themselves in a race they never intended to run, chasing after what they were told should make them happy (and isn’t). But true success and happiness are not simple destinations; they’re journeys filled with countless opportunities for meaningful relationships, unwavering personal alignment, informed decision-making, gratitude for your many blessings, and an ever-growing perspective on what’s most important. It’s crucial to find joy in your professional life, build a supportive social circle, and create a home that’s a sanctuary of love and support. Life isn’t always smooth sailing, but when these elements align, it usually turns out pretty well. Remember, designing your life is an art, and you are the artist.”