Be yourself because you have no other options.
Authenticity Can't Be Faked
There are few things more unappealing than someone trying to be something they are not. If your actions aren’t genuine, people notice it right away. This doesn’t mean that you have a license to behave any way you choose, but every individual should strive to tap into the better aspects of their own nature. It’s not always easy, but if you want to lead others, it is a professional imperative. The only way to be at your best is to leverage those parts of your personality and behaviors that allow you to constructively deal with any situation. I disagree with many management and leadership books that say you must “fake it until you make it.”Own Your Attitude and Actions
All adults should be expected to act like adults, regardless of their level of power or wealth. This doesn’t mean you won’t be human and slip up sometimes, but it does mean you’ll strive to catch yourself when you fall, learn from your mistakes, and do better the next time. The key emphasis is on YOU and taking responsibility for your attitude and actions. This is all you can control. We all have individual strengths and vulnerabilities that make us who we are. You can’t go against the grain of your own personality for too long. The key is to navigate whatever life has in store for you in the best manner possible, given who you are. I appreciate Daniel Goleman’s insights into emotional intelligence, particularly his perspectives on self-awareness, self-regulation, and social skills. No one is ever successful alone.No One Succeeds Alone
It is impossible to go through life without having to interact with and often rely on other people. To do your job effectively, you need to establish trust, credibility, and rapport. The best way to do this is to be true to yourself and let the other person do the same. Without pretence and with the right intentions, you can easily get to the heart of any situation. However, unlike a small child who has limited ability to separate what they feel from what they say and do, adults need to think before responding, and they should access those parts of themselves that are most likely to lead to a successful outcome/interaction. It’s always wise to play to your strengths and strive to mitigate your weaknesses – we all have both.Related articles
- 10 Ways To Always Be Yourself and Live Happily (lifehack.org)
- What It Means To “Just Be Yourself” and 3 Ways To Do It (tinybuddha.com)
- Developing Emotional Competency (intentionalworkplace.com)
- Personal Branding Interview: Daniel Goleman (personalbrandingblog.com)
- Literature reg. Emotional & Social Intelligence (ohlmerconsulting.wordpress.com)
- Respond intelligently. (eliseonlife.wordpress.com)
- Can Emotional Resilience Be Taught? (psychologytoday.com)
- Social Intelligence and Leadership (lugenfamilyoffice.com)