As we finish off the final accounting of 2019, it’s a useful exercise to reflect on the past year and how we performed against the goals we set out at the beginning of last year. You start by being honest with yourself about whether you hit your goals or didn’t. There should be no wriggling room or rationalizations. Progress is certainly good, but it is no substitute for achievement. Too often in business and life, we accept less-than-stellar results.
There are only five main explanations as to why people don’t hit their goals:
- They didn’t believe in the goal in the first place.
- There were too many other competing goals.
- The goals were set too high and were unrealistic.
- Lack of support or buy-in from others who are critical to goal accomplishment.
- A significant personal or professional event intervened and diverted your focus.
First, too many people commit to things they think they should be doing rather than focusing on what they genuinely believe needs to get done. Success requires some level of passion and commitment. If the WHY isn’t big enough, then the HOW won’t matter. It’s easy to lose focus and get off track if you aren’t really committed to the outcome. Sometimes, something sounds important and makes logical sense, but if your heart isn’t in it, it won’t happen.
Second, people tend to set way too many goals. In their enthusiasm at the beginning of the year, they take a laundry list approach to everything they want to get done and lose all sense of perspective and prioritization. If everything is a priority, then nothing truly is. Goals shouldn’t be something that would be nice to do but rather those things you feel compelled to do because of their importance and overall impact on your personal or professional life. I advise my clients and friends to have no more than 5-7 major goals each year.
Third, there’s a difference between setting a stretch goal and being completely unrealistic. There must be some reasonable chance you can hit your goal. I do have some colleagues or clients who believe that if you set incredibly challenging goals, you may not achieve them, but the act of trying to get there pushes you to perform at a higher level than expected. Personally, I don’t subscribe to this mindset, but even if you do, there should be some minimal threshold of what acceptable progress is, and this bar should be high; otherwise, you will get used to the idea of” good enough,” which rarely ever is.
Fourth, no one lives in a vacuum. We are dependent upon other people all the time to get what we want and need. If your goal requires significant input, effort, or support from someone else, you better make sure they are on board with the goal in the first place. The quickest path to frustration is to assume that your priority is someone else’s priority (even if you pay them to help you). Goal alignment is the necessary lubricant for success if you want to have any chance of getting there.
Finally, the first four reasons are within the realm of our control. If we are aware of the obstacles going in, we can do something about them. However, sometimes extraordinary (often unseen) events do occur and derail our focus and progress. There is not much you can do when this happens except re-prioritize your efforts around what’s now most important. Instead of beating yourself up for not being successful, revisit what you originally planned and make reasonable adjustments based on the first four explanations and the impact of what you are now dealing with. Don’t lose sight of the original destination, but instead, design a different, possibly longer route to get there.
I encourage you never to get comfortable with non-performance. It becomes too easy to rationalize why things didn’t happen and live a mediocre life. As time goes by, the gap between who you want to be and who you have become only widens and leads to a negative self-image, bitterness, worry, and discontent. You either hit your goals or you don’t – it’s that simple.
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