Daily Leadership Thought #193 – Emotional Control Is Not Optional

Nothing is more distasteful to employees than a boss who has no emotional control over their own emotions.  People look to their leader to lead with confidence and resoluteness not to “suffer the slings and arrows” of their emotional ups and downs.  Of course, there will be adversity and disappointment – that’s part of any job.  However, what separates great leaders from everyone else is that they actually get cooler under pressure and have an unflappable nature about them when things go wrong.

Leadership implies responsibility and to be responsible you need to act accordingly.  I do not expect leaders to be automatons who never express emotion.  Having an emotional reaction to things is a part of being human.  What we can’t allow is for our emotional reactions to be disproportionate to the situation or to give the impression that you are easily triggered.  Always remember you are on stage and have an audience even if there is only one other person involved in the interaction.

Your employees will generally take their lead from you and the work culture will end up closely resembling how you solve problems, treat people, and manage conflict.  If you are anxious, they will get anxious.  If you are mean spirited and throw people under the bus, they too will stab others in the back.  If you hold a grudge, they will hold a grudge.

Talented leaders get the most out of other people.  They know how to inspire and motivate others effectively.  They serve as a role model on how to act and handle professional situations.  They naturally engender confidence and respect.  You can’t do this if you don’t have control of your emotions or if your behavior seems unpredictable or erratic.

Leaders are often forged in the fires of chaos, adversity and great stress.  People just naturally want to follow them because they tend to take charge in a calm and reasonable way.  Whether they have the answers or not, they understand that the best way to make progress is to channel the organization’s energy in a positive direction and create the space where others will step up and seize the initiative when needed.

Talented leaders get the most out of other people.  They know how to inspire and motivate others effectively.  They serve as a role model on how to act and handle professional situations.  They naturally engender confidence and respect.  You can’t do this if you don’t have control of your emotions and/or people find your behavior unpredictable or erratic.

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